And here you are, still single and looking to meet “the one”.
Still on a quest to finally find that one “special” person you have been waiting for all your life. That someone special who will sweep you away, and in one magical moment take away all your problems and make the world right for you.
You may be wondering what it is that makes some people so irresistible they attract people to them like bees to honey.
What have they got that you haven’t?
Are they using some sinister mind-techniques? Or are they just blessed with magnetic charisma?
I too used to wonder what it was.
Heck, I even joined a slimy secret seduction society a few years ago — and I got to hang out with some dudes teaching me all sorts of sneaky ways of tricking and manipulating women into liking me.
That didn’t last long though — it just felt rather sordid, nasty and completely out of integrity.
Then I learnt that actually, it was all about who I was being and how I showed up in the world that mattered the most.
Think about it. Why would anyone choose to be with you in the first place?
Becoming Irresistible is An Inside Job!
The penny dropped — it all began with me.
I took stock of my life, developed new interests and hobbies, and focused on my growth and development to become the best version of me.
And magically people started wanting to hang out with me — I made many new friends and even went out on many hot dates with women who I had previously considered well out of my league.
I too became irresistible and quite a catch.
Now you too can do the same — here’s how:-
1. Make Others Feel Valued and Special
The key is for you to be genuinely interested in people.
This will work wonders in creating a deeper human connection between you and everyone you meet.
When you deeply care about other people and you are interested in their stories, you naturally become more interesting yourself.
By being authentic and interested in them, their life and their passions, it is easy for the conversation to flow and a human bond to be created.
So be interested rather than interesting. Make others feel special and they will also see you as special.
2. Become the Best Possible You
Become the best version of yourself — create a vision for your life and seek to improve yourself daily in some way.
Your outer growth begins with your inner growth, so follow a path of personal and spiritual development as well as material growth.
And part of your inner growth is to learn to accept and love yourself just as you are with all your warts, blemishes and wrinkles.
You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly. — Sam Keen
3. Be Kind and Considerate to Others
The way you treat people around you says so much about you — so treat others the way you would want them to treat you.
Learn to be gracious and polite to all the people who make your life so easy and convenient for you every day such as waiters/waitresses, shop assistants etc.
And be especially kind, polite and courteous to all the people that matter the most in your life and are the closest to you such as your family.
The way you treat people is ultimately how you will treat your future partner — so reflect honestly now on just how you treat other people — and take steps to change your behaviour.
4. Lead a Life of Purpose
Living a life of meaning and purpose will make you that that much more interesting and attractive.
Knowing what matters to you in your life and striving towards it will make you stand out.
Also, once you are in a long-term relationship with your chosen special one, a common life purpose, something meaningful and deep to you both, will keep you both together through thick and thin.
If you are not clear about your purpose, then simply choose to live a life of love and kindness — and make that your purpose.
5. Get Clear About What You Desire in a Relationship
Get clear about what you want from your future partner and your relationship — the clearer you are, the easier it is to meet someone.
Though it’s useful to have a wish-list about your partner but do look beyond their physical attributes.
Reflect on past relationships and see what worked and what didn’t.
Look around for role models in your life and the type of relationship they have and what you would like too.
You can learn so much by just watching how couples interact — so indulge in some people watching.
6. Take Great Self-Care
Look after yourself in the best way possible — so review your diet, create an exercise plan and get all your medical checks up-to-date.
Being a picture of health will make you more attractive — and you’ll have more energy for fun activities with your future partner.
Focus on becoming reasonably healthy and fit and do not go crazy. Follow a simple sustained programme of improvement as a little bit every day will go a long way.
Also, review your grooming — review your wardrobe, your hairstyle and your hygiene.
7. Keep Your Future Love-Nest Tidy and Clutter-Free
De-clutter your home and create a nice, comfortable place for your future partner to visit you.
Clear out the junk from your life and your home. You will also benefit subconsciously.
Start here by going through my 20 questions that will simplify your life forever. Every question where you have answered YES is an area for immediate action — no holding back!
Remember — why would someone special go for a slob?
8. Follow Your Passions and Create a Fun Life
Create a fun life of your own so that one day someone special can augment it.
Be passionate about your life and your special interests. Follow your interests such as salsa, hiking and sports — anything that tickles your fancy.
Do things on your own, or with friends — don’t wait till you find your special one to begin living. Start now!
By doing so, you are more likely to meet that special one during such activities.
9. Develop New Interests and Learn New Things
Try out new things rather than sticking to the same old routine activities.
You will then not only make new friends and learn new things you’ll also become more interesting to potential partners.
You’ll also get to expand yourself intellectually, physically and spiritually, depending on the new activities you choose to explore.
Here is a mini-challenge for you — in the next 7 days, do something completely different…
10. Let Go of the Past — and Learn from Your Heartbreaks
Are you being held back by your past?
Do you still harbour regrets over past “failed” relationships and resentment against ex-partners?
Then it’s time to deal with such past issues and partners now rather than when you meet the special one.
Let go of your baggage.
If necessary, seek out professional help so that you can be healed and emotionally available.
11. Have an Abundant, Generous Attitude
As well as being kind to people around you, adopt an abundant and generous approach to life.
Be open and generous with your praise, material goods, money, resources, wisdom and time.
Read here about abundance, abundance, abundance — and apply in your life from now onwards.
Of course, don’t flaunt your wealth or be a show-off. Only share your opinion or wisdom where appropriate and with permission. Don’t be a smart alec!
12. Become Refined and Polished
Look for any rough edges in your behaviour that could be polished up.
Do you swear a lot, tell crude jokes or often get drunk and legless? Do you lose your temper easily?
If so, then address these rough edges urgently before your special one sees just how crude you are!
If it helps, ask your friends for honest and open feedback and create a plan of action for becoming more cultured, refined and polished.
13. Be Emotionally Mature and Grownup
In a close and intimate relationship, your partner needs to be able to express their feelings and viewpoints.
So review just how open and available you are to offer them emotional support without you switching off, becoming cold or even jumping down their throat.
Just how easy-going and amenable are you? Will you bring out the best in your partner, or will you stifle them?
I love you, not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you.
– Roy Croft
Ask your close family and friends for feedback — or if you are really brave and open to possibly critical feedback, ask your ex-partners.
Seek help in this area if appropriate.
14. Develop a Sense of Humour — and Laugh Lots
You must be a fun person to be around with!
Otherwise, why would anyone special even seek you out?
Learn to be light-hearted about things and don’t let every minor little thing get your back up.
Learn to laugh easily and often — lighten up. Life is too short to be grumpy, regardless of whether you are single or not.
“Remember to smile and to smile often. Every time you smile, someone could be falling in love with you in that moment.” — Unknown
Time to Unwrap the Irresistible You
So there you go — the secret to being irresistible begins with you.
You too can have a bunch of admirers and go on dream dates.
And you can do so with integrity and decency, without playing any mind-games.
Best of all, adopting all of the above strategies will make you a better, more rounded human being.
You will feel great about yourself and you’ll ooze confidence. The type of confidence that’s attractive and magnetic. That makes you irresistible.
And of course — you’ll be quite a catch.
It’s time to unwrap the irresistible version of you that was always there…