Don\u2019t they just make you green with envy?<\/p>\n
Some people seem to be surrounded by fun people all the time, and they always seem to get the best girl or best guy.<\/p>\n
And here you are, still single and looking to meet \u201cthe one\u201d.<\/p>\n
Still on a quest to finally find that one \u201cspecial\u201d person you have been waiting for all your life. That someone special who will sweep you away, and in one magical moment take away all your problems and make the world right for you.<\/p>\n
You may be wondering what it is that makes some people so irresistible they attract people to them like bees to honey.<\/p>\n
What have they got that you haven\u2019t?<\/p>\n
Are they using some sinister mind-techniques? Or are they just blessed with magnetic charisma?<\/p>\n
I too used to wonder what it was.<\/p>\n
Heck, I even joined a slimy secret seduction society a few years ago\u200a\u2014\u200aand I got to hang out with some dudes teaching me all sorts of sneaky ways of tricking and manipulating women into liking me.<\/p>\n
That didn\u2019t last long though\u200a\u2014\u200ait just felt rather sordid, nasty and completely out of integrity.<\/p>\n
Then I learnt that actually, it was all about who I was being and how I showed up in the world that mattered the most.<\/p>\n
Think about it. Why would anyone choose to be with you in the first place?<\/p>\n
The penny dropped\u200a\u2014\u200ait all began with me.<\/p>\n
I took stock of my life, developed new interests and hobbies, and focused on my growth and development to become the best version of me.<\/p>\n
And magically people started wanting to hang out with me\u200a\u2014\u200aI made many new friends and even went out on many hot dates with women who I had previously considered well out of my league.<\/p>\n
I too became irresistible and quite a catch.<\/p>\n
Now you too can do the same\u200a\u2014\u200ahere\u2019s how:-<\/p>\n
The key is for you to be genuinely interested in people.<\/p>\n
This will work wonders in creating a deeper human connection between you and everyone you meet.<\/p>\n
When you deeply care about other people and you are interested in their stories, you naturally become more interesting yourself.<\/p>\n
By being authentic and interested in them, their life and their passions, it is easy for the conversation to flow and a human bond to be created.<\/p>\n
So be interested rather than interesting. Make others feel special and they will also see you as special.<\/p>\n
Become the best version of yourself\u200a\u2014\u200acreate a vision for your life and seek to improve yourself daily in some way.<\/p>\n
Your outer growth begins with your inner growth, so follow a path of personal and spiritual development as well as material growth.<\/p>\n
And part of your inner growth is to learn to accept and love yourself just as you are with all your warts, blemishes and wrinkles.<\/p>\n
You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly.\u200a\u2014\u200a<\/em>Sam Keen<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
3. Be Kind and Considerate to\u00a0Others<\/h3>\n
The way you treat people around you says so much about you\u200a\u2014\u200aso treat others the way you would want them to treat you.<\/p>\n
Learn to be gracious and polite to all the people who make your life so easy and convenient for you every day such as waiters\/waitresses, shop assistants etc.<\/p>\n
And be especially kind, polite and courteous to all the people that matter the most in your life and are the closest to you such as your family.<\/p>\n
The way you treat people is ultimately how you will treat your future partner\u200a\u2014\u200aso reflect honestly now on just how you treat other people\u200a\u2014\u200aand take steps to change your behaviour.<\/p>\n
4. Lead a Life of\u00a0Purpose<\/h3>\n
Living a life of meaning and purpose will make you that that much more interesting and attractive.<\/p>\n
Knowing what matters to you in your life and striving towards it will make you stand out.<\/p>\n
Also, once you are in a long-term relationship with your chosen special one, a common life purpose, something meaningful and deep to you both, will keep you both together through thick and thin.<\/p>\n
If you are not clear about your purpose, then simply choose to live a life of love and kindness\u200a\u2014\u200aand make that your purpose.<\/p>\n
5. Get Clear About What You Desire in a Relationship<\/h3>\n
Get clear about what you want from your future partner and your relationship\u200a\u2014\u200athe clearer you are, the easier it is to meet someone.<\/p>\n
Though it\u2019s useful to have a wish-list about your partner but do look beyond their physical attributes.<\/p>\n
Reflect on past relationships and see what worked and what didn\u2019t.<\/p>\n
Look around for role models in your life and the type of relationship they have and what you would like too.<\/p>\n
You can learn so much by just watching how couples interact\u200a\u2014\u200aso indulge in some people watching.<\/p>\n
6. Take Great Self-Care<\/h3>\n
Look after yourself in the best way possible\u200a\u2014\u200aso review your diet, create an exercise plan and get all your medical checks up-to-date.<\/p>\n
Being a picture of health will make you more attractive\u200a\u2014\u200aand you\u2019ll have more energy for fun activities with your future partner.<\/p>\n
Focus on becoming reasonably healthy and fit and do not go crazy. Follow a simple sustained programme of improvement as a little bit every day will go a long way.<\/p>\n
Also, review your grooming\u200a\u2014\u200areview your wardrobe, your hairstyle and your hygiene.<\/p>\n
7. Keep Your Future Love-Nest Tidy and Clutter-Free<\/h3>\n
De-clutter your home and create a nice, comfortable place for your future partner to visit you.<\/p>\n
Clear out the junk from your life and your home. You will also benefit subconsciously.<\/p>\n